List of Dangerous Apps for Tweens and Teens

Teen Tuesday

 

Welcome to Tween/Teen Tuesday at My Crazy Good Life! Today we’re checking phones. iPads. Tablets. Whatever your child is using to access the internet and play games is what you’ll be using. I’ll tell you a little about some apps that might require a second look, and I’m asking you to share any apps not on this list so we can all make one another aware.

That’s right.

We’re snooping.

Except, we’re parents–so we’re being responsible.

Pull ‘em out.

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List of dangerous apps for tweens and teens

Do you know what your kids are doing on their devices?

Playing games?

Texting?

Chatting? Snapping pics?

Logging on to dangerous apps?

It’s important to check in and see what they’re up to once in a while. How much is up to you, but I recommend every couple of days.

We do this by having our kids charge their devices in a common area of the house every night. After they go to bed is usually when I remember to check them out. A bonus to this is that even though they know we check their devices, it’s a little less intrusive than asking your child to hand it over to you.

Let’s talk apps.

These apps ask you to verify that you’re 13 or 18 or whatever-teen before they let you in. But we all know that kids can bypass this with a simple “yes.” Because users are supposed to be 13 years or older when they use the app, there are no parental controls.

You are the parental control for your child. 

I am trying to pull together as many apps as I can for you, and then send you to the responsible sites that have written about them for more information.

A couple of things you should note before I begin.

1. These apps can be harmless–if your child sticks to friending their real-life friends and keeping their profiles private. Since most kids don’t do that, I’m not going to assume they do.

2. Kids are moving to these apps for one reason–their parents aren’t there. It’s up to you to educate yourself by using the apps yourself or learning to monitor them.

3. I am all for responsible use. I don’t delete apps unless I feel that my child isn’t mature and responsible enough to use them appropriately. I advise teaching your child to make smart decisions instead of deleting apps, but this is definitely a personal/family decision.

Here we go!

Facebook Logo

Of course we are going to start with Facebook. Though it used to be where all the kids hung out, they’re slowly leaving because it’s where their parents hang out, as well. Facebook used to be a great place for kids to find cool memes, but with apps like 9GAG and iFunny (see more on them below), they don’t need to hang out on Facebook anymore. Here’s my post to help you review the privacy settings on your teen’s Facebook account.

SnapChat

Snapchat is a very popular app among tweens and teens. The concept is pretty simple: you take a photo and send it to a friend, and they can view the image for up to 10 seconds before it deletes itself. Shannan from Tween Us wrote about parental concerns with Snapchat and how Snapchat images aren’t really deleted forever, like Snapchat claims they are. Because of the high instances of tween use, Snapchat created a SnapKidz feature, which I wrote about here on iPhoneLife.com. There’s not much monitoring to do with this app, as the images delete themselves, but it’s worth having a long talk with your child about appropriate ways to use Snapchat.

kik

Kik An instant messaging app used by many tweens and teens. It’s used often for sexting and flirting more often than harmless chatting. Click here for a more in-depth review of kik on Tween Us.

MySpace

MySpace is the old facebook, remember? Well, now teens are heading back to this network, but it’s a little more dangerous now that all of their parents are gone. There is still little to know about what teens are doing on MySpace, but it’s definitely an app you should open and check.

Yik Yak App

Yik Yak is all over the news right now. It allows anonymous comments to be left for those within a 5-10 mile radius of the user. I can’t think of anything good that could come of that. Tween Us has a great post about Yik Yak, and there have been several other news articles written within the past week, as well.

We Chat

The WeChat text messaging app is huge in Asia right now, where they even have soda machines that interact with it. U.S. teens are slowly catching on. WeChat is similar to WhatsApp–they’re both texting apps. These texting apps are great for kids who don’t hsve unlimited texts, but they pose an issue because parents who are comfortable opening their teen’s text messages may not be as comfortable navigating around an unfamiliar app.

We Heart It

We Heart It is an app that’s similar to Pinterest. I wrote all about it here. Though it’s not one of the most dangerous, it is still an app that you should monitor.

Reddit for teens?

Reddit is a place for images and stories to be posted on the internet. One quick Google search for “Reddit teens” tells me why teens shouldn’t be anywhere near Reddit:

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Facebook MessengerFacebook Messenger is yet another texting app. Have I mentioned that in all of these apps, it’s pretty easy to delete texts? It is very easy to group text in the messenger app, though, so I think that’s why this one is sticking around.

Foursquare for teens?

Foursquare is a location-based app. Though not widely-used by teens, if you see it on your child’s phone, they’re most likely “checking in” at locations. Publicly. Real-time. See what Common Sense Media says about Foursquare.

Twitter for teens?

Twitter is huge with teens right now. Though it’s usually a place where kids can chat with friends, there are some teens who try to gain as many followers as possible. This becomes an issue when strangers try and connect with your child. There are stories about adults trying to meet teens locally and lure them to different (more private) chat apps.

Vine app

Vine is a video platform that teens are heading to. They can easily create short looping videos and share them with friends and strangers. Normally, this app isn’t too much of a concern depending on who your teen is friends with. Learn more here.

9GAG Tweens and teens love memes. But memes aren’t always made for tweens and teens. 9GAG is a mostly adult app where you can find some funny memes. The app is rated 12+ but I have to say I think it should be left for older kids. You can read more about 9GAG here on the iTunes app website.

iFunny

iFunny is similar to 9GAG. Use with caution. There is, as there are many memes and images meant for adults. Common Sense Media says stay away.

Pinterest safe for tweens?

Pinterest is a collection of pretty images. Every once in a while you’ll come across a meme, but I truly can’t remember ever seeing anything offensive. As with any app, it depends on who you follow, but I think that Pinterest is pretty safe for tweens and teens alike. They can find fashion ideas, the latest Rainbow Loom tutorials, and fun science experiments and crafts here.

Tumblr

Tumblr Tumblr is a micro-blog. It’s a way for people to collect images they like and share them with others. Some people have no problem sharing images that may be offensive to others. I feel like I’m saying this again and again, but it’s all about who you follow. With good monitoring, this app should be ok for teens. Here is what Common Sense Media says about Tumblr.

Updated: A Mom left this comment for me below (thank you!), and I want to make sure you see it:

Hi great advice. However I disagree about tumblr. There are tons of pro anorexia blogs and lots of porn. I would limit tumblr to a 16 year old or older. I accidentally clicked on something on tumblr and found extremely graphic images and animated gifs that kids should not see.

Ask.fm

Ask.fm I’m going to go ahead and say that this app isn’t a good idea for tweens and teens. It’s a place overrun with bullies and and the app has been linked to suicides overseas. You can read what Shannan at Tween Us has to say about Ask.fm here. Common Sense Media has a similar opinion here.

Omegle App

Omegle Chat with “random strangers.” When you open Omega, it chooses a random stranger for you to chat with. After meeting the stranger you can choose to keep talking or find someone else. In my mind, I’m thinking of internet dating. I see no reason for kids of any age to be on this. Here is a good article about Omegle

Down app

Down Formerly called Bang With Friends (I’m not even joking), Down connects you with “safe people” to date. You can add friends, look through their friend lists and choose to “Get Date” or “Get Down.” I really wish I was kidding about this app. Obviously, an app made for adults, Down has no place on your child’s phone.

*Please check the comments for great advice and tips about other apps I haven’t mentioned here, as well as experiences that are different from mine!*

Comments

  1. 1
    jen k says:

    thanks for sharing this list. always good to stay one step ahead of our teens

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    MomOfFour says:

    Hi great advice. However I disagree about tumblr. There are tons of pro anorexia blogs and lots of porn. I would limit tumblr to a 16 year old or older. I accidentally clicked on something on tumblr and found extremely graphic images and animated gifs that kids should not see.

    • 2.1
      Becca says:

      Thank you for your tip! I have updated the post to reflect your comment, and SO appreciate you leaving your thoughts. My son doesn’t have a lot of experience with Tumblr, so this is so helpful!

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    tanya says:

    This is very informative….you know i appreciate it!! Thanks :)

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    Sarah says:

    On pinterest I happened to look at one of my followers profiles and found down right raunchy photos of her and her pins were just as bad. I figure she is a Pinterest troll and follows everyone and anyone. Just beware. I am an adult so it didn’t matter to me.

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    Camilla says:

    This is great! I don’t have any teenagers but I have friends that do and I’m going to tell them to check this out!

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    Risa says:

    Thank you for this. What about instagram? It is a photo sharing app that most of my kids friends use, and I recently learned (and confirmed myself) that there is lots of graphic porn on the site. I reported many images to instagram the other day, and was happy to see that the hashtags used in relation to the porn were removed. I am guessing the porn was removed as well. I didn’t track it. There was so much. You can get to it in about 3 taps from the home screen.

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    Tamara says:

    Id check out the app “Meet Me”. Not a good app for young kids to be on, though plenty of them are.

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    Gabriela Ramos says:

    Thank You for the heads up on all these apps :)

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    Denise says:

    The post is so helpful, thanks for the great info! Denise

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    Brooke says:

    One thing about the Tumblr app and Tumblr in general, if you see that your teen is using it you should have a discussion about copyright laws. Tumblr has closed down some prominent people who use the micro-blogging platform and even teens are open to being on the wrong end of a copyright usage lawsuit.

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    Mary says:

    I would check out ooVoo. It’s a video chat app that kids can use.

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    tawnie says:

    Who do you think you are telling parents what is a bad app and what is not? Holier than thou mommybloggers are obviously the problem. Each child and family is different and for you to tell people that apps are bad is awfully presumptuous of you. Stick to parenting your own kids and stay out of preaching. Stick to your schilling of crappy products and promoting other ethically challenged mommy bloggers including yourself. You are ridiculous

    • 12.1
      Becca says:

      I’m sorry you feel this way, Tawnie.

      Many parents appreciate my help evaluating apps, so I write for them and not you. Nobody forced you to click on my blog and read this post–that was your choice. And the fact that you made the time to leave such a lengthy and hate-filled comment baffles me.

      Last I checked cars, electronics, and tech gadgets weren’t crappy products, so let’s just agree to disagree, ok?

      I appreciate you taking the time to leave me your thoughts.

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    Kara says:

    Thank you so much for all this information! There is so much scary stuff out there that we need to be aware of :(

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    Kara says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this! My oldest is turning 11 soon and getting more involved in technology. He isn’t really into any of these networks yet (thank goodness) but I want to educate myself as much as possible now that he is getting older.

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    Sky says:

    My oldest boys are 13 and 15 and are with their own Mom most of the time, but when they are with us, we’ve checked their phones and made sure they don’t go in with them to bed. I really like how to actually details each app in this post- super helpful and smart- Thank You! Pinned also :)

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    Ann says:

    One way to monitor what apps kids have on Apple products is to share an iTunes account. Any apps my son downloads automatically show up on my iPhone and then I can decide to permit or disallow that app. An app to add to your “no” list is “Hot or Not” where kids can rate each other. It’s just a gateway for bullies.

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    Olivia says:

    Being a tumblr user, it’s obvious that you can “black list” tags or certain key words. When using it safely, Tumblr is actually a very sophisticated, safe place for anyone to hang out. Simply use a browser extension to prevent any sensitive tags from appearing onto your dash board.
    And if you don’t look something awful up, or follow blogs surrounding that, it won’t pop up onto your dashboard.

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    Annad says:

    Meet me and pof aka plenty of fish. They are dating websites, and doesn’t always look like dating apps. But they are full of very creepy people. And snap chat was orginally “a safe way to sext” so I think it can be very dangerous

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    Oddly the place we have had the biggest problems are minecraft forums. All of the ads are gifs so graphic I feel the need to wash my eyes after.

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    kc says:

    regarding tumblr it is a very very dangerous site for teens
    This site promotes aneroxia, cutting and suicide
    leads our children into a very dark world where these things all seem
    like the norm.
    As a mom, I warn everyone …. do not let your children on tumblr !!!

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    nnn says:

    tinder is dangerous

  26. 26

    My friend’s two-weeks-from-11 year old desperately wants a phone. I sent her here, then came for myself. I don’t know how you parent in this culture, where mistakes are so easy to make and don’t ever go away… no matter what the app says, as you point out. Great post!
    a/b
    .

    • 26.1
      Becca says:

      Thank you for thinking of me! The age is different for every kid–Jack will be 10 this summer and he is not even close to ready for a phone!

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    Kitty says:

    So, I’m a teen… I’m 16. I see the problem with some of these apps and advice… but for the most part I had to laugh.
    In the first place, if your child is using any of these apps for “bad” reasons, they are probably up to a lot worse outside of their phone. The technology is not the problem, the problem simply extends to the technology.
    Second, the author says it is less invasive to just go on your kids tech when they don’t know your on it? HA. As if. That is way way way way worse. Don’t ever do that. In fact, keep checking their phones to a minimum. Only check if you are specifically worried about something, or they will be setting and changing passwords to stop you from literally invading their privacy. That’s what your doing, snooping and invading privacy. And doing so behind our backs will never make it better.
    Third, this article assumes that your teen is up to no good. Please don’t take that stance… it feels horrible… like you don’t trust us and won’t give us the chance to prove tht we can be trusted :(
    Fourth, yes, these apps can be harmful, but everything can be, and it’s all in how they use it. Think of it like banning seesaws, what good actually comes of that? I mean sure, a few less injuries from irresponsible use, but you lose the joy and the fun… playgrounds would lose everything that’s good about them. And it’s the same with the phone, sure keeping an eye on this apps monitoring them and removing may avoid your teens seeing things you don’t believe they should be exposed to, but it also makes it feel like there’s no point in having a smartphone if u can’t do anything, and makes you the parents seem over protective, which they will resent.
    Finally, some of these apps are nearly as harmless as they can get. Like weheartit, there’s some proana, but if your child likes that they’ve probably been exposed to it in real life. Pinterest is the same, there’s barely any nudity although there is some partial nudity but for god sakes you’re talking bout a teen not a child. What about shopping online for underwear or swimsuits? It won’t be worse than that or Pinterest will have removed it. Twitter rarely has anything bad on it, and dm isn’t the most common use of it the im apps really aren’t worse than texting, just a free version. Tumblr can be good but there are some things tht you would view as inappropriate as parents, but if they’re looking at it there, it will be pretty damn hard to stop them from ever seeing it. We’re teens, we’re determined, we hide things, we’ve done things you will never know about, we can be dirty, we can get drawn into things like proana, but these things online, they don’t cause this behavior, were growing up, we will rebel and experiment, but chances are, we will be okay in the end. So lighten up, and just breathe. It will all be over soon and you will be proud of us again.

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