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Tween Tuesday

Welcome to Tween/Teen Tuesday at My Crazy Good Life! Today I’m explaining what the new facebook changes mean for your teen. I’ll also help you find the settings to keep your teen safe online and explain why I’m not a fan of the new facebook privacy settings for teens.


Facebook Privacy Settings For Teens & Quick Reference Chart For Privacy Settings

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Teens 13 years of age and older are able to register for a facebook account. Previously, teens with facebook accounts had status updates defaulted to sharing with “friends of friends.” With the new changes, when teens ages 13-17 sign up for a facebook account their default audience for status updates will be “friends” (which is a smaller audience) and they will have the option to share their status updates with the public.

Not all of these changes have rolled out to all facebook profiles yet, so be aware your teen might be operating under the “old” policy right now, like mine is. There isn’t an option for him to have followers yet. Keep checking back, though, because eventually your child’s profile will be affected.

In addition, teens are now allowed to have followers, or people who can view their status updates even though your teen isn’t friends with them. Those following your teen will only be able to see the updates they share as public.

Here are the basics:

1. Your teen has a choice between making his status updates visible to a select group of people, all of his friends, friends of friends, or public. This is something that can be changed every time he posts a status update by clicking the box to the left of “post.”

Facebook Privacy Settings For Teens: Change Visibility Of A Status Update

2. If your teen has allowed public followers, they will see his status updates in their timeline. This includes public check-ins that tell his location, public pictures that he posts and any other public status updates he makes.

3. If your teen changes an individual status to public, they will see a series of pop-up warnings from facebook. The first warning says, “Did you know that public posts can be seen by anyone, not just people you know? You and any friends you tag could end up getting friend requests and messages from people you don’t know personally.”

Facebook Privacy Settings For Teens: Change Updates To Public

If your teen still chooses to make his update public and chooses “ok,” he will see a message that says, “Tip: Sharing with Public means anyone (not just people you know) may see your post.”

Facebook Privacy Settings For Teens: Change Updates To Public

Once you change the audience that you share one status update to, that audience remains the same for all future posts (unless you manually change it again).

What does this all mean?

1. Talk with your teen. Explain what online privacy is and why it’s important.

2. Explain some of the scenarios that concern you. A friend tagging him at the mall so the friend’s followers know where they are. Someone knowing where he goes to school. A follower who documents his life and uses it to bully him.

3. Walk through the facebook privacy settings with your teen. Take a look at the Privacy Shortcuts that can easily be found in the top toolbar:

Facebook Privacy Shortcuts

Click through to each section and discuss what the options mean. Remember, your teen is still a kid. Help them understand what their choices are in this area.

4. Discuss friend requests. If your teen receives a friend request from someone they don’t know, what should they do? Make sure you’re on the same page about this. For younger teens, check their friend lists often.

Here is a quick reference chart to help you with your facebook walk-through with your teen:

Facebook Privacy Settings For Teens & Quick Reference Chart For Privacy Settings

The bottom line is that as parents, we have to stay up to date with the social media networks that our children are using. I’m not a fan of the new facebook privacy update because I don’t think teens should have public followers. A teen who changes the audience of their status update without their parent’s knowledge could be put in danger by a public check-in. I understand that for other social media networks the same danger is there, but I think it’s easier to keep up with the “protected or public” options of other networks like Twitter or Instagram. The feedback I’ve heard tells me parents easily feel overwhelmed by facebook changes and instead of digging in deeper to make sense of them, they back away from them entirely, leaving social media privacy decisions to their teens.

What do you think about the new facebook privacy changes for teens?

In addition to public status updates, facebook apps can easily grab your permission to share personal profile information. Bryan Logan explained how to check what your facebook apps are doing behind your back and how to change their settings or remove them.

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  1. Another privacy settings to worry about is the groups your teen belongs to. Some groups are public where anyone can come in and read things. But you can also limit group settings so that only members can see things. Make sure the teen knows that even though it’s a group, it could be public. Also, determine who’s in the group. If it’s a group dedicated to people from the youth group and access is controlled to only those personally known to be in it, that’s great. If it’s “i cud nap all day. lol” and anyone can join, it’s probably something to avoid.

  2. This is really good info that a lot people probably don’t know about. Social networking sites and apps can be so dangerous for kids and teens.

  3. This is great info! Not only for teens but for adults too. This prompted me to go double check my settings just in case something new had changed. I for example forgot that when I check into a public place that anyone can see that, not just my friends. I don’t allow any apps on my FB but I know many do and they don’t think about that the app now has all their information including their friends. Great info! Thanks.

  4. Great info. I have my kids as friends on Fb and they have to be in the same room when on internet

  5. Very good post! I don’t have a teen yet, but when I do, I will be sure to take extra precautions when they use FB, if it is still around ;)

  6. This is a great post, Becca…I pinned it and will share with others as it continues to come up in conversation.

    1. It is, Jessica. So frustrating how they change so much!

  7. Visiting through tribe bloggers- loving your site and so glad I found you!

    My oldest is 10, so I’ll need this before I know it- great summary and it looks like the changes are good.

  8. Great info here, my kiddo isn’t on Facebook but this is a great resource for those teens!

  9. My kids are still little and I already feel overwhelmed by what I need to know to teach them and to protect them and help them know how and why to protect themselves. I feel like I’m still learning all the social media pros and cons and how choices play out over time. I like that you pointed out that they are still kids and need to be taught what the possibilities are and why it’s important to make conscious choices about what we share and how it’s shared.

  10. As a teen, I say no FB altogether. Twitter, texting, Instagram, Pinterest and Snapchat are all alternatives.

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