As parents, we try to raise our kids to be the best they can be.
We try to help them make the right choices, steer them in the right direction when they start to stray, and stand back and appreciate the moments when we can see they are on the right track.
Patti Mallette is no different–she assured me of that when I spoke with her last week about her son, Justin Bieber.
Wait–did I just say that Justin Bieber’s Mom is just like you?
I did. She did, actually.
I was among a handful of bloggers who was able to pre-screen Justin’s new movie, Believe, coming out this Wednesday, December 25th. The movie chronicles Justin’s Believe tour, which Patti accompanied him on. I chatted with Patti after I saw the movie and we shared smiles while discussing our favorite part. We both loved watching Justin’s story with friend Avalanna unfold. “The world likes to see his human side, his feelings,” said Patti. I agreed, and mentioned that it’s good for kids to see his emotions–it helps them realize that being a celebrity doesn’t mean that you’re above struggles.
You see, Justin had a friendship with Avalanna Routh, a 6 year-old who lost her struggle with cancer last September. I don’t want to spoil it for those of you who don’t know about the relationship, but the main story is that Avalanna wanted to marry Justin. Yes, even at 6 years-old. She even called herself Mrs. Bieber. Avalanna and Justin became quite close, almost like sister and brother, and their friendship played out during Justin’s Believe tour. The moments documented in the movie will bring you to tears, especially if you’re the mom of a teen boy. Boys that age don’t easily show emotion, and to watch Justin let his guard down is heartwarming.
Justin showed his emotions, he has always loved kids. He would stop for babies when he was little and talk to them. Once at a water park, he and his friends were walking around and Justin stopped to talk with a baby. he made his friends stop, too.
After talking about Avalanna, I asked Patti a few questions about being the parent of someone so talented:
1. How did you know Justin was talented–like, talented enough to make it? I didn’t know. Everyone thinks their kid is special, the most talented, gifted, most beautiful. I didn’t know until he entered the singing competition and took 2nd place. He posted the video on YouTube for his grandmother and it went viral. He had no experience or lessons at that point.
2. I have a difficult time managing the behavior of my 13 year-old–as any parent does, I’m sure. How did you manage Justin’s behavior at that age, with all of the outside influences he had? The same way as any parent. Do what you can. Take his phone and his computer. Be the loudest voice in his ear.
Be the loudest voice in his ear.
3. What do you do to ensure he stays grounded and doesn’t get caught up in anything negative? As a parent, you hope you train your child right, the way you want. You just hope they make the right choices when they’re on their own. At his current age, there’s a period of separation. They want to be their own person, make their own decisions. I let him come to me for help with certain things and sometimes I can just be there for him.
Everyone thinks their kids is special.
Be the loudest voice in their ear.
Just hope they make the right choices when they’re on their own.
Yes, Patti Mallette is just like you. She wants the best for her child and is standing back and hoping he makes the right choices.