Dads Who Blog: A Guest Post By DadBlunders

I’m so excited to introduce you to Aaron who blogs over at Dad Blunders. Aaron is one of my most supportive friends in the bloggy world, and I appreciate the honesty he shares on his blog. He talks about potty training, blogging, and funny topics like why men don’t give birth, for starters.

Today, Aaron is telling you all about being a Daddy Blogger.

 

DadBlunders

 

When Becca asked me to write a post for her blog she asked if I would discuss more about being a dad blogger. One thing I will say is that I am a father first and a blogger second. If all I ever did is write, I might miss the journey, and I am not willing to do that. However, I do write about my son and life. In fact, I spend many late evenings writing humorous events, things that make me want to cry or life in general (yes…men do cry).

I did not begin blogging to become rich or famous. I began blogging as a gift to my son. I know as I get older I would like to remember the humor and sorrow from my families life. Blogging is a good way to record moments that my son, Xander “someday” might want to read.

The longer I have blogged the more I have discovered that many people care about what I have to say about fatherhood. Before becoming a stay-at-home dad, I was a social worker. Being a social worker taught me that men need good role models that are able to promote fatherhood in a positive light.

I have had people tell me that men are not good parents. In my opinion, all men have the potential to become good parents, they just need someone to show them how. I use my words and life to promote fatherhood in a manner that my son, Xander will someday be proud to read.

As a stay-at-home dad, I have had a rare opportunity that many men will never know. I have watched my son grow into my 4 year-old little boy. I have had the privilege and honor of watching him develop towards the man he will someday become.

I am the parent that is the first to respond to accidents. I get to make the lunches. I pick out his clothes. (who knew you could put overalls on backwards?) Being home with my son is an opportunity that I am glad to have.

Fatherhood is an experience that I would tell any man they would not want to miss. Being a father allows a man the opportunity to run through the street, chasing after their child, yelling, “Wait for me, Mighty Thor!” A father can take their child to the toy aisles and “check out” all the things you they need. Being a stay-at-home dad has allowed me the opportunity to play with Lego blocks, cars and baby dolls with my son (I am an equal opportunity father. Do not judge)!

Do not misunderstand me, like all parents, there are times I can become frustrated, angry and want to pull my hair out. Fortunately, when I do get overly frustrated, I write about it. It not only helps me to feel better, but I usually get many comments from other parents that have felt the same way at one time or another.

I try to remember that Xander is growing up and will not always want me. As a father, one of my life goals is doing better than my father did for me. Someday, I hope my son will do an even better job for his children. If writing about it helps Xander to learn from my mistakes or ways he can improve on his parenting, I have been a successful blogger and father.

Aaron Brinker is a 43 year-old stay-at-home dad. He has a Bachelors of Social Work, and had worked in Social Services investigating child abuse. He considers fatherhood and parenting a privilege not ever to be taken for granted. His website Dadblunders is about being a mentor, parent, and father.

Comments

    • Ashley,

      Thank you!

      I am a dad that enjoys sharing with others about our life and experiences. I believe that fatherhood is the best that can happen to any man. I enjoy the journey and wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.

      Aaron Brinker aka Dad Blunders

  1. Love finding new Dad Bloggers to read! I love how you said, ” I began blogging as a gift to my son.” I feel the same way, but for my girls. Off to check out your blog!

    • Hanan,

      The best any parent can ever ask is to “try” and keep as many memories as possible. I started blogging as a way to write down various life events and things i thought “might” be important someday.

      I won’t deny that I do write a few product reviews, a blogging series and a few random facts on my site. Even when I write those it is a way that my son will know more about me and who I was in the future. I try to write everything with the thought that he might read it someday (and I definitely want him to understand the value of humor and being a father or parent).

      Aaron Brinker aka Dad Blunders

    • Melissa,

      Thank you so much! I am glad you liked it. I just try to be the best father possible. I know, like any parent, I am going to make mistakes and parenting is nothing more than a long learning curve. :)

      Aaron Brinker aka Dad Blunders

    • Tesa,

      I enjoy writing about our life and connecting with all of the wonderful dads and moms I have met through blogging. I like to believe we are here to support each other (all of us need it upon occasion)

      Aaron Brinker aka Dad Blunders

    • Kristin,

      Thank you!

      We are all only here for a short time. The moments we spend with our family and friends make all of the difference in the world. I wouldn’t want to miss a second of my son growing up.

      Aaron Brinker aka Dad Blunders

    • Liz,

      When my son was born, my father told me not to make the mistakes he had made. He asked me to try learn from the things he had done wrong. The ironic thing about the conversation was I had the identical one with my grandfather (my dad’s father) a few years before he passed away. I took both of their words and what they told me to heart. I know I will make mistake but I try to learn from them and do things differently from that moment forward.

      Aaron Brinker aka Dad Blunders

  2. Love this guest post. I am so glad to know that there are people out there (dads included) that aren’t afraid to blog about the stuff that can suck..I guess I should blog about the poo mural my 18month old painted on my beige carpet :)
    And about the good stuff they aren’t missing either.

    • Megan,

      I have never been afraid (so far anyway) to blog about the things that can “suck” as a parent. In my opinion, it is all the small stuff that we think sucks on a daily basis that we will look back someday and miss. I try to find humor in everything we do (and some of the things my son says I know I am glad i wrote down)

      Aaron Brinker aka Dad Blunders

    • Amy,

      Thank you and it’s great to meet to you!

      I love to talk about our life and record all the humorous things that happen. Generally, the problem I have is not enough time in the day to record everything I want (I do keep notes though in my phone)

      I do a few sponsored posts here and there on my blog but they generally still relate to my family somehow. I also do a series on blogging basics that I started to “try” and help new bloggers. I know when I began the hardest thing to find was basic information that I could understand (and not feel like I need a degree in computer technology).

      Aaron Brinker aka Dad Blunders

      • LOL! Yes, I read a few of your blogging basics posts and you did very well at putting them in good easy to understand terms. I responded to a post on your site but think I may have actually only posted it in the Triberr plugin so not sure if that comes through.

  3. Becca,

    I want to thank you for having me on your great site! You are one my favorite bloggers and I was excited that you wanted me to guest post. I hope that you enjoyed my post as much as I did writing it for you.

    As a dad, I appreciate the opportunity to share about fatherhood and what it means to me. I know that parenting is a learning curve and I continue to learn on a daily basis. I am always grateful when others take the time to hear about parenting from a dad’s perspective.

    Thank you again Becca,

    Aaron Brinker aka Dad Blunders

    • Kate,

      Thank you so much!

      I try to keep true to myself and my values when I write. I wrote court reports for several years and it was a quality that was always “wanted” by a judge. They would prefer we stayed unbiased but wrote with some heart about a situation (hard to do but it made me always think about what I wanted to say and how it came across to others). It actually was very good practice to learn how to write and the best ways to get your point across.

      Aaron Brinker aka DadBlunders

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